tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3230288215309238824.post7535217808849217766..comments2023-10-29T06:15:58.629-07:00Comments on Mona's Gospel Musings: Galaxy Quest: Advice for Parents Who Want to KnowRamona Zabriskiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16872101764302006271noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3230288215309238824.post-63817529656014139732011-06-27T10:22:46.421-07:002011-06-27T10:22:46.421-07:00My mom's advice for parenting has always been,...My mom's advice for parenting has always been, "Follow the Spirit. Follow the Spirit. Follow the Spirit." Sometimes the Spirit works through other people, as we all know. So my advice would be listen to others' advice and follow the Spirit on whether you should pay attention or not. :)Sara Lynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05845719758900364574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3230288215309238824.post-78067277515193475572011-06-27T08:00:23.504-07:002011-06-27T08:00:23.504-07:00From Two-Plus:
I think I can understand where my ...From Two-Plus:<br /><br />I think I can understand where my friend's advice comes from, even if I don't agree with it. Not from some prideful, stubborn refusal to try new approaches to parenting, but perhaps from acquainting well-meaning advice with criticism. I can certainly relate. I have, as I hope many other women can relate, fretted over what the people who mean the most to me think of me. Like Diva, (thank you for your beautiful comment; I'll have to work hard to remember that) I yearn for mutual respect from the other mothers in my life, especially my mother in law. . . and I often feel like I must earn that respect. In such times, the well-meaning, even well-spoken bits of advice can feel like prodding attempts to chasten or criticize. But it is in those moments that I forget that the beauty about those people who's opinions matter most to me is that they already love me, freely and without restraint, for who I am. I am convinced that is our elders' (not elderly) special way of protecting, bonding, and showing love to us. <br /><br />After experiencing all the advice you receive from random strangers the moment your belly pops out and announces the impending arrival of a little one, I have come to understand the absolute need of women to give and receive advice. It is a bonding tool. Even when it is silly, probably untrue, and bears little resemblance to actual advice, such as "Your round (versus pointed or square) belly means you're going to have a girl, not a boy," it creates an essential connection to more experienced women, which then allows us younger women to know to whom we can turn to when we need real parenting advice. <br /><br />The other truth about advice I feel like we must realize is that is all it is: advice. It is free. You can take it or leave it and I doubt seriously whether most people will even notice if you took their advice. After all, even what my friend said was parenting advice: how ironic. <br /><br />I can't wait to read more of what the best parenting advice people received was. I think, after reading many mommy blogs, the most prevalent theme I have found, even if not stated explicitly as advice, is to look at everything with a sense of humor and not take yourself too seriously. Remember that parenting is a learning process and none of us are perfect, and we all do better when we don't think others are watching us critically, but instead watching us with love and encouragement, so just assume that is how people are looking at you.Bri... only shehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14383857581525387196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3230288215309238824.post-24984265626092294442011-06-27T05:50:37.485-07:002011-06-27T05:50:37.485-07:00Valerie: Living in the moment is the essence of jo...Valerie: Living in the moment is the essence of joy isn't it - and especially in appreciating the experience of parenthood. AMEN<br /><br />ldsjaniete: My advice to you specifically: Now's the perfect time to stash up the parenting advice and observations! and YES - your faith NOW affects generations yet to come. Absolutely.<br /><br />Sarah: REALLY! I've never heard that. Our Hannah can take advantage now of YOUR good advice with her upcoming marriage!Ramona Zabriskiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16872101764302006271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3230288215309238824.post-80905343627636279032011-06-27T05:46:50.060-07:002011-06-27T05:46:50.060-07:00Diva: That is SO wonderful. When we are in the pro...Diva: That is SO wonderful. When we are in the process of learning, of progress, everything is going exactly as it should! A friend named Pat recently reminded me of that truth but I had not directly related it to parenting until now. Excellent! Thank you for leaving such a thoughtful comment that will surely help other Musers!Ramona Zabriskiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16872101764302006271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3230288215309238824.post-38186782453941467362011-06-26T22:52:43.377-07:002011-06-26T22:52:43.377-07:00A professor once encouraged me to meet with my sea...A professor once encouraged me to meet with my sealer BEFORE the day I got married. My experience with following that very advice was so profound that I hope to encourage such an opportunity for each of my own children.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03483402251940709081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3230288215309238824.post-17925070807095658072011-06-26T22:02:19.160-07:002011-06-26T22:02:19.160-07:00None, yet. At least, none that I really paid atten...None, yet. At least, none that I really paid attention to since I couldn't quite apply it right away. Hmmm. Unless you count what we studied from Elder Nelson's talk today: my faith now affects my posterity's faith later. That and advice like it is probably the best I could get as a future parent--to live the Gospel in complete obedience and with a cheerful, full of hope, grateful attitude.<br /><br />I never thought I'd hear "Galaxy Quest" and "gospel" in the same post. :-) Welcome back to the U.S.!ldsjaneitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09925051891110460699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3230288215309238824.post-44114622874243739772011-06-26T16:59:01.874-07:002011-06-26T16:59:01.874-07:00I love to get advice from people who have been her...I love to get advice from people who have been here before and lived through it all! :) One specific thing I remember is to enjoy the moment, even when the kids are little and you are frazzled, you will wish yourself back to that moment for a little sticky, gooey kiss and a hug from those tiny arms. I seriously doubted that sometimes, but it is so true.Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14796161900653422174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3230288215309238824.post-32826939582146967482011-06-26T10:35:27.274-07:002011-06-26T10:35:27.274-07:00Best parenting advice I ever received, wow that is...Best parenting advice I ever received, wow that is a big question. I think the best "Advice" came from my brilliant mother, who gave me something more than advice, she gave me a thought to think. The thought was "There is nothing wrong here". I was relaying to her a frustrating experience I'd had with my toddler in front of my mother in law, whom I love and adore and want to earn her respect as a mother myself, but at this moment in time my toddler was just absolutely out of control. When I turned to my mother in law and asked her if my husband had ever acted that way, she actually said no, that she'd never allowed it. My heart sunk to my toes and I felt like an utter failure. In all fairness, I'd asked for it. As I cried this story to my mom, she told me something that struck me to my very core "There is nothing wrong here" She smiled. She said that as long as I think things should be different I would always find myself coming up short. Comparing my child to an ideal would just frustrate both of us. Sure, she told me to try new approaches, hold a vision of the behavior I want to see and strive for, encouraged me to be friendly but firm, but through the process I must trust that THERE IS NOTHING WRONG with that process, that evolution, the learning the growing and the experiencing for BOTH my son and me. I can't tell you how many times my frustration has evaporated in the heat of the moment and I was able to handle things in a level headed way because I remembered the simple truth that there is nothing wrong with the situation. I use it, when in the past I may have responded with anger, frustration, or embarrassment. This thought has allowed me to be imperfect, but amazingly has been the root of some of my most successful parenting moments because instead of being consumed with how it "should be" I accept how it is and move from there. Thank you for this post,Mona, and your beautiful perspective, it was a gem I added to my growing treasure trove of parenting tools.Domestic Divahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15349815973587704256noreply@blogger.com